So you know all about ghosting and how confusing it can be. But you’ve probably also been zombied without even knowing. Sadly, it’s another popular dating trend that you need to be on the lookout for. This is what zombie-ing is…

What is Zombie-ing?

You’re talking to someone new, everything’s going well. Then out of the blue they block you or ignore you completely for no reason! This is what it means to be ghosted. But then, (plot twist), they unblock you and start talking to you again – as if nothing happened! When someone who ghosted you comes back into your life again this is what zombie-ing is.

Does it happen a lot?

Not as much as ghosting, but it does happen. You feel like you’ve just about got over the confusion when they pop up into your life again with a cheery message as if nothing ever happened. It’s easier to do these days as all it takes to block someone or unblock someone is the click of a button.

What do I do if I am zombied?

When you’re ghosted there’s nothing really you can do, because you’re the one who’s been blocked. But when you’re zombied, you have a decision to make. Do you continue to talk and bond with this person who seemed to drop you so easily before or do you now block them back? The decision is completely yours – there is no wrong or right answer. They might have a good excuse. We advise that if you do decide to keep talking to them that you act with caution, if this person can you block you once they can do it again.

How do I avoid being a zombie?

If you’re reading this thinking, ahh, I’ve actually done this to someone else, you are not alone. Sometimes we choose to push people away if they get too close. Sometimes there’s a lot going on in our lives and we have other focuses. To avoid being a zombie, there are a few things you can do. If you’re talking to someone and for whatever reason you don’t want to continue speaking, instead of blocking them – talk to them. If you’ve got a lot on at the moment – reassure them that it’s not their fault, you just need a bit of time. If you’re nice and open with them, plus you give them plenty of warning, you’ll find everything less stressful. Also, should you want to talk to this person in the future – there will not be any bad feelings between you!

So that’s zombie-ing. If someone from your past shows up again out of the blue act with caution and don’t be afraid to be honest with them. 

Until next time,

The Just Singles Team