What Is Stashing?
We’ve uncovered Ghosting and raised awareness about Zombie-ing. The next biggest dating trend to be cautious about is Stashing which might not mean what you think it does. Here’s all you need to know and how to prevent it…
What Is Stashing?
You’ve been dating someone for a while now, but you’ve never been introduced to anyone within their circle. This includes their family, friends even flatmates! If you feel like you’ve reached a serious stage yet never met anyone else who knows them – they are stashing you.
Does It Happen A Lot?
Not to make you paranoid or anything, but quite a few people like to date on the sly and not inform others about it. This could be because they have lied about something and do not want to be found out, they may not be as serious about you as you are about them, or they might not be ready to go public about your relationship yet. Whatever the reason, it should still be seen as a warning sign if they don’t even suggest you meeting their friends or family.
What Do I Do If I Get Stashed?
If you feel you’re at that stage where you should be meeting their circle, first of all – suggest it. It may be that it genuinely hasn’t crossed their mind, or they have just been having too great a time with you to notice. If they mention a family member or a friend, drop the hint – “I’d love to meet Brenda sometime! How about next weekend?” If you get shot down or there’s a weird excuse – this is a warning sign. If it carries on – voice your concerns. Tell them how you feel and explain that it’s important to you. If you care about this person it’s only natural to want to meet other people in their life.
How Do I Avoid Stashing Someone?
If you’re seeing someone now and they haven’t met your friends or family yet – why not? If you’re anxious about what they may think of them – choose your most understanding friend and introduce them first. This way you can get the practice in for people you know who are more opinionated. If you’re embarrassed by who you are dating, or you think it’s pointless them meeting anyone you know cos you don’t think it will last anyway – what are you doing?! End it! You should only be with someone you care about, otherwise you’re just hurting someone unnecessarily. If you’re worried because you’ve lied to them and don’t want to be found out, now is the time to come clean. Your relationship won’t last if it’s built on lies anyway.
So if you feel like you’re being stashed away – speak up! If they continue to be shady, it’s time to leave. Never settle for a person who only wants to show you half of their world.
Until next time,
The Just Singles Team