Love At First Sight
Is love at first sight really possible?
Many people are quick to answer no to this question, and those people would suggest that those who would answer ‘yes’ are hopeless romantics, or have an unrealistic, idolized notion of what love is, and the effect that it can have on you. They would suggest that lust is the emotion you are experiencing during these moments where you feel drawn to someone. You are physically attracted to that person and are intrigued by them, simply wanting to know more and spend more time together, to see if the attraction could possibly lead to better things.
My opinion really depends on the leniency people have towards the words ‘first sight’. I believe that we are completely capable of falling in love at first meeting, which I would consider to be first sight. The main discrepancies being that you spend a little more time with the person and actually talk to them, be it only for a short period of time. For anyone who reads this I’m sure there will be some debate on whether or not this counts as first sight but my response to that is, if you are so against the notion of people being able to fall at first sight, then surely your views would remain the same if the period of time were to be extended by an hour or so?
To those non believers I ask that you stop and think. I do not believe love has to blossom after months/years of getting to know the person fully. I think that there are various types of love, much like there are various types/levels of hatred. You love your parents, your friends and have loved past partners (a feeling you might question now), so why not someone you have just met? I’m not suggesting that you can fall completely head over heels in love with someone after talking to them for an hour, but I know I’ve been in a situation in which I have felt something more for someone then I thought I could, or should. Where we have just clicked and upon separating, left my mind filled with nothing else but questions about her that I knew could only be answered upon our next meeting. Another variant that affects the idea of love at first sight is actually seeing that person again. Everyone knows the famous saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ which obviously doesn’t apply to all scenarios, but in a situation similar to this, knowing that you may never see that person again would amplify your emotions. You will never forget that person, and forever have fond memories that play on a loop every so often when something seemingly meaningless triggers them. You recall what you spoke about, what her hair was like that evening and how she teased you playfully; similar memories to the ones you may have for an ex, just less detailed.
And so I close this blog with a final thought. We live in a cynical time in which those that voice their opinions are often ridiculed. But would it really be so bad to believe that it’s entirely possible to feel an instant connection, even a feeling of love, towards someone you’ve just met? Maybe I am, as they say, a hopeless romantic. But you know what? I’m OK with that. I would rather live in hope, than live in doubt.
We’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Do you think it’s possible to fall in love at first sight? Leave a comment and let us know!
Until next time,
The Just Singles Team.