It’s OK To Be Picky

As human beings, we have an overwhelming desire to love and be loved, but sometimes this feeling can obscure how we see potential new partners. It’s normal to warm towards the first person that you “click” with but we think patience is a virtue and it pays to be picky, even when it comes to online dating.

How Online Dating Can Help You Narrow Your Search


The great thing about online dating is that you can read all about someone and see their picture before even talking to them. This gives you an advantage over your average ‘meet cute’ where you might know nothing about them and have to invest a lot of time getting to know them before seeing what they are really like as a person. This doesn’t, however, mean that online dating is a sprint. You still have to put some time and work in, but it’ll be worth it. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t make contact with your soul mate in the first month. Thousands of people join online dating sites every day so you may see a whole new line-up over time, and Mr or Mrs Right might be in it.

It’s reasonable to want to find a partner with similar interests as you are more likely to enjoy mutual time together that way. It’s why we always encourage people to fill in their profile as it really saves time and effort in the long run. You might be talking to someone for a while and find out their hobbies and likes are things you really dislike and you are back to square one. You probably don’t want to date someone who enjoys paragliding and bungee jumping if you are petrified of heights.

A hot topic when it comes to dating is location. We aren’t saying that you should count anyone out if they live hundreds of miles from you, you just have to know what you are prepared to do if you met someone who’s perfect. Would you expect them to come to you? Would you be prepared to relocate? If you know you wouldn’t be able to accommodate a long distance relationship, there’s no harm in focusing your search nearby.

They say age is just a number, but if you disagree, it helps to be clear about the age range you are looking for. Don’t forget you can also apply search to look within that range and inbox filters to make sure you only receive messages from that age range.

Personality types can be tricky because sometimes relationships work when two people have similar personalities and sometimes they work when the two parties are opposites. Think about what you’re attracted to and the types of people you are drawn to in your life. This will give you a good indicator of what to search for online. To help others get to know you, maybe try online personality testing to see how you fare.

When it comes to online dating, don’t be afraid to be a little picky here and there!


Until next time,

The Just Singles Team