How To Get A Second Date
If a date is going well, you’re likely to know quite early on if you want to see this person again. First dates can be awkward, stressful and not to mention nerve-racking, especially when it’s make or break to get to date number two! So, here’s a few tips for securing a second date…
The most important thing to be on a first date is yourself. And I mean really be yourself! From your fabulous personality, right down to your quirky sense of style. The only way to make someone fall in love with you is to just be who you are. And if they don’t like what they see, you’re probably not that compatible anyway!
Everyone enjoys talking about themselves and if the person they’re with seems interested in what they’re saying, it’s going to make them feel good. So, show interest in your date by asking questions. Encouraging them to elaborate on what they were saying will make them feel important – which they’ll love you for in return!
Good conversation works both ways. So while you’re showing interest in your date, make sure you also keep them interested in you! Think about what makes you interesting and what makes you who you are. Maybe it’s what you do for a living or that fun hobby of yours. Whatever it is, be sure to drop it into the conversation.
Don’t over do it on the compliments
Being complimentary on a date sounds obvious but you can easily go overboard and leave your date feeling awkward and uncomfortable. A subtle “you look great” will go down well but it’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has told you 5 times how beautiful you are. They say flattery will get you anywhere but on a date, just play it cool.
Keep it fun
Despite your nerves, try to remember that a date is supposed to be fun. Keep the conversation light and enjoyable. Delving into political views, religious opinions or your own medical conditions are not ideal first date topics, if you want to see this person again. Talk about your hobbies, your passions, your travels… anything but your bunions please!
Don’t get distracted
It’s easy to get distracted in a busy environment but you must remember that the first date is about getting to know each other. If your gaze has wandered over to the couple arguing on the table behind you, your date will notice and it will only make them feel like you’re not that interested. If you’re a bit of a smartphone addict and find yourself constantly checking your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or, dare I say it, online dating profile, turn that phone off altogether!
Hopefully by the end of date one, you’ve both had such a great time that the second date has already been discussed! But, things don’t always go so smoothly and you’re left wondering; who should call who first? Don’t be afraid to get the ball rolling with a quick message to say that you had a good time. With a bit of luck, that’s all it takes to prompt them to arrange date number two. Success!
Until next time,
The Just Singles Team.
About the author…
Emma is an Email Marketing Executive. She went to Bournemouth Arts University and has a degree in Fashion Studies. She has a love for vintage markets and enjoys nothing more than a weekend at a muddy music festival.